My thoughts on Chris brown & the Grammy backlash

However, I believe his career should be over. He should no longer be allowed to be a public figure, as he ALMOST KILLED Rihanna. Let’s not forget that he head-locked her between his chest and bicep, blocking her arteries and airways and she began to lose consciousness. She could not escape because of the seatbelt, and then once she got it off he kept the car moving.

“I’m going to beat the shit out of you when we get home! You wait and see” 

“You just did the stupidest thing ever! Now I’m really going to kill you!”

Let’s not forget that the only reason he stopped BEATING her (yes beating, not just 1 or 2 hits but a full on attack) is because she got free and started screaming for help. Who knows how much worse he would have beat her. Would it take him killing her for us to see how unforgivable this behavior is? 

If Chris had seem fully apologetic, volunteering time for women’s rights, donating money to battered women’s shelters, and acting in a way that would prove he is reformed, then maybe he should be forgiven more easily. The fact is that he hasn’t. He has been acting immature, and like someone that needs anger management.

Rihanna herself can forgive him if she would like, because it happened to her, and because holding on to a grudge can keep one from moving on and growing. So I am glad she is moving past it: but we shouldn’t. The Grammy board shouldn’t. They did the right thing by not allowing Chris to perform for a couple years, but they showed bad judgement on letting him perform at the Grammys just 3 years after Rihanna could not attend the same show because she was hospitalized, bruised, with swollen eyes, contusions on her legs, bitemarks, and a a split lip.

Rihanna may “forgive” him (taking into account that she may be doing it for show, or for publicity, to be edgy, etc) but she is just one young girl who can make mistakes. An entire professional team like the Grammy board should not, and neither should we. We need to not send a bad message to young girls. Not a message that says “he can hit you and it will be forgiven shortly”.

We have a bigger responsibility than Rihanna herself has, to make a good example. You can name as many artists as you like, Elvis, David Allan Coe, Merle Haggard, etc. And we don’t know the full details of their altercations (we have the full police reports from Chris Brown’s attack) but a lot of it was a long time ago, and isn’t right, but we have evolved as humans and society, and the same stuff that was okay back then is NOT okay now; if it was there would still be slavery, and women still couldn’t vote. You can’t pull the “well these artists did it too” card, because it was not okay when they didn’t either. Unfortunately for you, we are not talking about them now. The subject at hand is Chris Brown and Rihanna. Also with them we are talking about public’s forgiveness and not the decision for a major industry award show to let them perform again.

Chris Brown should be so ashamed and embarrassed that he shouldn’t even want to be a  public figure anymore. What he did should make him want to lay low and get on with his life away from the spotlight, and the fact that he still does want to be in the spotlight just shows how little he thinks of his crime. It’s not a big deal to him at all, and it’s not a surprise seeing as he grew up in a household full of domestic violence. 

If you are still trying to find justifications and rationalizations why we should forgive Chris Brown’s attack, then you are an enabler, and one of the most major problems with modern society.

Just imagine it was your sister, daughter, or mother than this happened to, and then maybe you would think differently.